How do maintain balance between work and home, when illness strikes?

I think most of us can agree that we have jobs in order to get a salary that will pay for a roof over our heads, food in our bellies, and for our family’s well being. Family is first in our hearts, but we end up passing more time at work, than we do at home. We use our vacation time to be with our families and make great memories. We have try to make it to every school recital, but sometimes have to explain to our children that we can’t be there and it kills us to do so.

I was diagnosed with a autoimmune disease earlier this year. Since then, there as been a series of medical tests, medical appointments and the inevitable sick days. This has taken most of my sick days and vacation days away. In my case, I know that things will get better eventually, it just may take a year or two to get there. I know that not everyone has the luxury of knowing that everything will work out in the end.

We are the end of the year, the holidays are upon us and the flu hit our home with a vengeance, one family member at a time. I was lucky to get sick during the weekend and only missed one work day. My spouse missed 2 days of work. In his case, those days aren’t paid. This means ill-298909_1920more financial strain in a time of year that is more costly than most (other than the return to school season). We can’t afford for him to stay home more than absolutely necessary.

Then the middle child got sick. I stayed home one day and got a look and a tone, because I had missed Monday and had a medical tests Tuesday and they knew I had a medical appointment on Thursday. Now the youngest is sick and I will have to stay home Friday. So it’s been a horrible week, attendance wise.  I am out of sick days and vacation days for the year. I have over 60 hours of overtime done, but the company doesn’t recognize overtime unless it is done after you missed (3 hours or less) and you use overtime to work it back. I can technically work from home, but it has to be approved in advance and it’s really frown upon. This is not going to going to pass very well…

What do you do when you are stuck between a rock and a hard place? I really would like to know.