Stay together for the sake of the kids – You mean divorce/separate for the kids, right?

People stay together for the sake of the kids. I got divorced/separated for the sake of my kid. I split with my daughter’s father over 4 years ago now. I remember people telling us we should stay together for the kids. I’ve heard if from family and friends, I’ve read it in magazines articles, etc. I personally think that this particular piece of advice is wrong. ¬†On the contrary, I actually came to the conclusion I was ready to move out for the kids. Let me explain.

There came a moment where I could choose to overlook many things and choose to stay in an unhappy relationship “for the sake of the children”.

I don’t think its better for children to see their parents in a loveless marriage, to be subjected to a dysfunctional, wounded marriage. To see their parents lose their joy.

I wanted my kid and step kids to know that it wasn’t ok to settle for a loveless and unhappy marriage. I wanted them to know that their personal happiness and self-respect was still important after having children. I wanted to know that you didn’t have to be shackle by a mistake for the rest of your life. I wanted them to know they could split when the relationship reached a point where there is no fixing or healing to be done. I wanted the kids to know that love is possible.

In conclusion it may be better to call it quits for the sake of the kids. So think about it twice before choosing to stay in a loveless marriage.


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