encourage-866734_1920I’m posting this in January because numerous people make New Year’s resolution to lose weight or shape up. Most of us do so for the wrong reasons.

Beauty comes in all shapes, sizes and colour. This is why representation is so important. We need to see a greater variety of beautiful women and men.

Don’t let society label you.

Everyone going around judging people on their weight using the “it’s not healthy for you” argument unless you are that person’s doctor, you don’t know nothing about that person’s health and well-being. Being fat or thin isn’t an indicator for being unhealthy or assurance of good health either. Even if a person is fat and unhealthy, they still deserve to be treated with the same level of decency as anyone else, healthy or otherwise. They are still human beings with thoughts and feelings. Respect shouldn’t be elitist.

“You can judge my body all you want, but at the end of the day it’s MY body.I love it & I’m comfortable in my skin.” – Simone Biles, Olympic Champion

My parents raised me to be respectful of others, not to judge and to keep quiet if you don’t have anything good to say. It seems that more and more individuals think that it’s perfectly acceptable to criticise others freely and openly. A woman like Simone Biles has achieved more than most of us have and her accomplishments apparently mean nothing to certain people unless she is also their kind of “pretty”.

adult-1869430_1920I saw my mother struggle with body acceptance all of her life. I struggled with it for a long time and I want to make sure that my kids grow up feeling positive about their bodies. Let us remember that children are listening to all of the post-holiday fat talks and absorbing our body hating moments.

I want us to stop punishing ourselves for a body that doesn’t look like the ones we are told we should have.

I remember shopping with a friend who is on the opposite scale as me and we both hated walking into clothing boutique because neither of us could find clothes that fit properly. It was then that I realise that much of the industry is built around one body shape and we are all trying to fit the mould, instead of fashion companies doing their jobs and creating clothes for every shape and size. In fact, fashion, beauty and diet industries make billions off physical insecurities.

Here’s a list of song I really like that promote body positivism:

 

A Mighty Girl also has a list of books on body positivism from childhood to teenage years.