Engaged? Be forewarned! Bad, outdated marriage advice coming your way.

Are you recently engaged? Be forewarned. There is a ton of bad, outdated marriage advice coming your way.  It is incredible the amount of article offering marriage advice that have made me choke. It seems like most marriage advice article you get during the wedding planning process was written a 100 years ago.

I have read advice that told future wives they should just agree with everything their husband says to keep him happy. That is an incredibly subservient view of the role women occupy in marriage. I’m sorry, but my fiancé asked me to marry him, not some simpleton wbride-1850074_1920ith no voice or opinions.

I’ve actually read an article that said you should never ask your husband to do chores around the house. They had a difficult day at work and you should let them rest. Excuse me, but we both had long difficult day at work and we both need to do chores around the house for this to work. I will not be expected to take this on all on my own. Considering that we have been living together for 2 years already, working as a team around the house is actually a relationship strengthener.

On a less sarcastic note. Could we please have less sexist, gender specific ‘how to be a Stepford Wife’ styled posts / articles. I’m sure the roles in life have altered in the last 40 years enough for these poor articles to not be published in 2017.

Ain’t Your Mama – Jennifer Lopez

I ain’t gon’ be cooking all day, I ain’t your mama
I ain’t gon’ do your laundry, I ain’t your mama
I ain’t your mama, boy, I ain’t your mama
When you’re gon’ get your act together?

I also read an article and was told earlier in life, that a woman should wear flats at functions, not because they are more comfortable for your feet, but to make your husband/partner look taller. Apparently, according to the people giving out this advice, men get ego boost by looking taller. Considering I have always been a tall woman and that the men I have dated always loved that about me, you’re not with the right person if they feel their masculinity threatened by their height or lack thereof.

I’m also surprise the majority of articles out there assumes that people aren’t already living together. Holidays won’t be an adjustment to include two families. We’ve been living together for 2 years. We have 3 kids. We’re a reconstituted family, so we have to plan the holidays with our ex families too. We already know how each of us handle money.

The only article I liked so far was 6 things you should NEVER hide from your partner from Brides Magazine and trust me they have shared many articles I disagreed with.

What is the worst marriage/relationship advice you ever got?


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