There are way too many books and movies who portrays an innocent, virginal young woman who falls in love with an older, abusive, controlling, sexual sociopath and it’s portrayed as romance, as something to dream about having.

couple-814825_1280We are teaching young boys that sexual abuse is sexy and young women that sexual abuse equals love. How can boys know it’s wrong when so many women talking and acting like this is a hot, sexy romance? The fact that so many women are failing to see the abuse shows how many have been successfully conditioned to turn a blind eye or accept it as a romantic gesture since childhood. “That boy is only mean with you because he likes you”

We are conditioning women to have low expectations of men, and asking them to put up with some of the mistreatment because “boys will be boys.”

We are also teaching young women that it’s within their power to fix broken men and if they just love them a bit more, the abuse will stop.

It needs to stop.