Love comes naturally to all human beings. Hatred is learned through education, parenting, friends, etc.
I understand that Feminism can be a scary word for some people, especially when hearing some of the false allegations going around. There is a lot of myths about what it means to be a feminist and most of it is created by people who see equality for all as damaging to their quality of life.
“If feminism wasn’t powerful, if feminism wasn’t influential, people wouldn’t spend so much time putting it down.” – Jessica Valenti
Activists protesting and working to achieve equality for all human beings, regardless of gender, race or sexual orientation, are doing it out of respect and love. If you think it’s all about hate of white men then you are not paying attention.
Feminism is about making sure everyone have full access to medical coverage, to educational opportunities, that everyone can live safe from violence, have access to justice and be treated the same under the law. They also want every child to grow up with positive images of themselves in the media.
The reason why it’s called Feminism is that women have been fighting to be treated equally for a long time and women represent half of the human race. It’s not an anti-men statement.
“Women have waited since the beginning of time to be treated equally. I think the time has come now when we can’t wait any more.”- Patricia Arquette
Feminist understand that no matter how knowledgeable or passionate you are, there’s always more to discover and more nuances to understand. Living with privilege that you didn’t ask for, but was born with, can make you blind or simply hide you from the struggles that others experience. The idea is to educate and to learn from individuals who are being marginalized.
“Feminism cannot be sort of a passive identity. It has to be something that we stand up and fight for.” — Cecile Richards
Feminism strives to show the impact gendered racism, reproduction rights for all genders and violence targeting people who are marginalized in more than one aspect. Feminism strives to show how these various forms of oppression multiply each other. Racism for women of color cannot be separated from their gendered oppression.
Sometimes, learning that we are privileged or have been passively marginalising people without realising the harm that we are doing, hurts and some strive to silence us or strike back. This is the reason why we can’t be passive, why we have to stand up and fight.
“To create a society in which individuals’ genders don’t restrict them from an equitable shot at success and happiness.” – Sam Killerman
We are all connected and what affects one person must matter to all. We strive for our acts to send messages of inclusion and acceptance.
“Those who live for one another learn that love is the bond of perfect unity.” – Frank Fools Crow, Lakota Sioux.
Why are so many bothered by this?
Why even comment if it means nothing to you and you have no skin in the game? You think it won’t change anything? Why are you are giving away way too much energy and power to something that means nothing to you?
The reason that you can’t just let it go is that, whether you can acknowledge it or not, this is a sign of the future. So keep complaining. You are fuelling the fire and showing your insecurities.
You see the injustice done to women in other countries and get upset because an activist is fighting for what you see as a lesser issue and make it seem like you have this amazing agenda. What are you waiting for? Do something about it. Organize a protest for the causes you care about. There’s a good chance that many of us will participate because we also care about those causes because most feminist understand that if you divide, you don’t conquer. It’s important to speak up and give a voice to all issues. Or are you just all talk? Otherwise, it just shows that you really have nothing to say of relevance.
“People who won’t like you because you call yourself a feminist already don’t like you because you’re a woman. Use the fucking word.” – Sarah D. Bunting