If you take a first aid class, they will tell you that your safety comes first. You can’t help anyone if you are on the floor next to your victim. We all understand that logic.
If you travel by plane, the flight attendant will tell you to put the air mask on yourself first, before you put it on children and anyone else who may need help. The logic is, you can’t help someone else if you faint from lack of oxygen. We all understand that logic.
Why is it is difficult to understand that we must apply the same logic in everyday life? If we tend to our own well-being first, we’ll have significantly more energy to be able to help others when needed.
“It’s not selfish to do what is best for you.” – Mark Sutton
It’s so important to spoil yourself and reserve some time just for you. Taking self-care time is crucial to our well-being. It allows us to invest in things that bring us joy or to relax and rest.
It doesn’t have to be anything big.
Being a caretaker as always been part of my identity. Passing the needs of my loved
ones first has become a reflex. When I practice self-care, I feel selfish, even if I know and understand that it’s a necessity if I want to lead a rich and productive life.
Once you understand why you’re not making yourself a priority, you can work with it. Next time you really need some rest, self-care, or alone time, simply notice the thought or feeling coming up. I have been trying to apply this to my life lately, as chronic illness is kicking my butt and my old habits are doing more harm than good.