Feminism can be a scary word for many people. There is a lot of myths about what it means to be a feminist. For example, there is this idea circulating around that feminist are women who had their feelings hurt by and man and now wants to hurt all men in revenge.

“There’s only one way feminism could have ruined your life: if your life hinged on the systemic oppression of women.” – Glenn White

pretty-1721699_1920Fighting against oppression and discrimination is not a question having to have our feelings hurt in the past by some guy and lashing back at an entire gender.  Fighting for gender and racial equality, which includes fighting against gender and racial pay gap isn’t about having one’s feeling hurt. Fighting for equal opportunity in the workplace isn’t about a woman getting her heart broken and wanting revenge. Fighting for the world without misogyny, racism, discrimination towards people of different sexual orientations, or gender norms, or disability isn’t about having one’s feeling hurts. Fighting for equal representation in politics, leadership isn’t about having someone’s feeling hurt and being mean back. Dealing with the horrific abuse women get purely directed at their gender isn’t about getting your feelings hurt.

“To create a society in which individuals’ genders don’t restrict them from an equitable shot at success and happiness.” – Sam Killerman

If you think that the entire feminist movement is about women with hurt feelings, you aren’t listening to what we are saying. You are patronising and your privilege is showing.  Remember, if you’re saturated in privilege, equality does feel like persecution.

“Women have waited since the beginning of time to be treated equally. I think the time has come now when we can’t wait any more.”- Patricia Arquette

Most women I have met that said they weren’t feminist agreed with the feminist causes. I think people are afraid of being hated or have bought into the destructive image that misogyny has created.

I think every woman in our culture is a feminist. They may refuse to articulate it, but if you were to take any woman back 40 years and say, ‘Is this a world you want to live in?’ They would say, ‘No.’” – Helen Mirren