If you write and/or talk about racism every day but allow your friends and family members to spew racist shit without calling it out, you are failing to stand for your beliefs and you are in fact contributing to racism.
I am profoundly over this whole fake ally type. We live in a world where racism is an issue that kills. Sharing stories, struggles, beliefs doesn’t help if we allow our own friends and family to be racist around us without stepping in.
If you are okay with their attitudes maybe you aren’t against racism like you pretend to be.