Trigger Warning: Discussion of racism, rape, sexual violence

There were many examples in the news in the past two years of people doing incredibly stupid things and being defended with a statement such as “this incident was not an expression of who this person is.” That is a lie. Everyone is responsible for their action. The decision to go through with the tasteless idea would never have occurred if that person wasn’t thinking like that. Being an ass-hole is a choice and a reaction.

It literally shocks me that there are so many ignorant people out there. Do they actually believe the crap they say? People used to be embarrassed to be dumb. Now they celebrate it.

“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.” – Dalai Lama

People who stand by and let it happen are just as culpable. Your decision not to step in says a lot about the person that you are.

In this story, 40 people saw a 15-year-old girl getting gang raped on a Facebook live-stream and none of them contacted the authorities to alert them of the crime. As far as I’m concerned these 40 people who have looked and didn’t contact the police are as guilty as the aggressors themselves. I’m mortified and crushed and angry and the story doesn’t end there. Following the crime, the girl started receiving death threats on Facebook even after that horrifying experience… This is too much…

The fact that a judge would blame Social Media for rape and lets the rapist go because “it’s not his fault”, is absolutely unacceptable. Influence doesn’t make crime legal. Victims still should have access to justice. Secondly, rape is not a 21st-century concept. This moron is going to blame rape on the Internet? So this guy gets probation because “the internet” made him do it.

The fact that a young 19-year-old woman was murdered by her ex-boyfriend after the police find her for wasting their time over her fears about him and people are protecting these cops, saying they couldn’t have known, is just another example of responsibility kerbing. They could have taken her fears seriously, instead of seeing “another emotional woman” and did their jobs.  This is so often the reaction of those wonderful policemen when there is this kind of allegation. Not all, probably not most, but enough for it to be a recognisable pattern.

development-2010010_1920Our word choice and our actions speak volumes. Choose your words and actions wisely.

The good news is that the future has not yet been written. Take responsibility for your life. When we take personal responsibility for who we are as individuals and stop looking to other people to grow, we evolve.

You can be anything you want. Why not be remembered for the good you can do? Think about how your words and actions will affect others as well as yourself. Take responsibility, apologise, learn, and do better in the future. Kindness and compassion go a long way for everyone. That’s how we will save lives.

“The only way we will survive is by being kind.” – Amy Poehler

We share an affinity with everyone on this planet. We are all brothers and sisters. Let’s keep having this conversation so people start paying attention!!!

Those who take action have a disproportionate impact. The power of one is to move many.” – Elizabeth May, leader of the Green Party.