“You should be ashamed of yourself” is a favourite saying of toxic people.
Shaming can also be used to destroy and whittle away at a person’s self-esteem. If this person dares to be proud of something, shaming her/him for that specific trait, quality or accomplishment can serve to diminish their sense of self and stifle any pride they may have. Shaming can also use to turn your own wounds against you. Toxic individuals will even shame you about any abuse or injustice you’ve suffered in your lifetime. “You should have known better.” or “What did you do to provoke him/her?” This is to make you make you feel deficient and unworthy.
Fat Shaming involves criticising and harassing overweight people about their weight or eating, in order to make them feel ashamed of themselves. It can be disguised as a bad joke. Some believe that shaming fat people will encourage them to loose the weight. In truth, it just makes things worst. “Are you really going to eat all that?” or “Do you know how many calories is in that?”
Thin Shaming involves criticising and harassing underweight people about their weight or eating, in order to make them feel ashamed of themselves. Telling a thin person to “Eat a cheeseburger” is no more appropriate than telling a fuller figured woman to eat a salad. It’s ugly. It’s rude. It’s NO ONE else’s business and any shaming should be beneath us.
It is a form of internet vigilantism, online revenge, in which the target is publicly humiliated. This is used to destroy reputations and careers of people who made perceived slights. I recently read an article where a female activist was sharing that she blocked a man who was threatening her on her social media page and he turned around and started spreading lies and rumours about her on numerous social media platform in revenge.
It is an unfortunate phenomenon in which people degrade or mock a woman because she enjoys having sex, has a healthy sex-life, or may even just be rumoured to participate in sexual activity. Slut shaming shouldn’t even exist. Sex is natural and has many great benefits. Both men and women desire sex. Sex doesn’t define you or lessen your worth.
Being shamed, no matter what form in comes in, hurts and can be devastating. Everyone deserves respect, love, support and a feeling of acceptance.