Being a woman shouldn’t be an insult, but it’s being used as one worldwide.

It is really disturbing that “feminine” qualities are categorically considered as something inherently bad and “masculine” qualities are considered to be good and desirable. It speaks of a deep-rooted hate towards women that is present in society.

“What’s the worst possible thing you can call a woman? Don’t hold back now. you’re probably thinking words like slut, whore, bitch, cunt, I told you not to hold back, skank. Okay, now what are the worst things you can call a guy? Fag, girl, bitch, pussy, I’ve even heard the term ‘mangina’. Notice anything? The worst thing you can call a girl is a girl, the worst thing you can call a boy is a girl. Being a woman is the ultimate insult. Now tell me that’s not royally fucked up.” – Jessica Valenti

I have heard men call women names that are so sick, abhorrent and disrespectful that I can’t believe anyone could think them up. Some argue that there are plenty of insults that don’t involve gender. It’s true, but you will notice that it is more insulting for a guy/man to be called a pussy than it is to be called a dick.

fashion-1844888_1920The problem is that boys are programmed from very young that being a man involved pushing down your emotions and to only care about things that are deemed to be manly. They have been programmed that power comes through strength. Girls are programmed that being a woman involves being emotional, being helpless, being soft. They have been programmed that power comes through manipulation. Therefore, to insult a man with feminine insults hits them in their pre-defined hyper masculinity. This is why gender roles are dangerous and should be eliminated. Why can we just leave everyone be? It’s perfectly okay for men and women to be both strong and weak, to feel emotions and empathy, to be interested in a great many things. Nothing should be just for men or just for women.

Every time girl is used as an insult, I react and express my disapproval. Guess what, people make an effort (at least around me) to find other types of insults, that doesn’t involve putting down an entire gender. If everyone did this, we would curb the idea that being compared to a woman is insulting.