Victim blaming is when the victim of a crime or harmful act is held fully or partially responsible for it. If you hear or read someone questioning what a victim could have done to prevent a crime, that’s victim-blaming.
I believe it’s a gut instinct to place blame on the victim to make ourselves believe that we could have controlled things, that it wouldn’t happen to us, to make us feel safe. The problem is that it’s actually making all of us more in danger and easier targets.
The fact that victim blaming happens so frequently makes it harder for people to come forward and report abuse. This means that it is easier of perpetrators to get away with crime, which means more people feel encouraged to act on their urges knowing they will probably have zero repercussions.
If you are on the receiving end of abuse, it’s not your fault. You are not to blame for the violence that someone else has done to you. Many survivors are told this but are unable to truly believe it because of the amount of victim blaming they face, directly and indirectly, every day.