Are you surrounded by friends who are simply there because they’ve always been there? Are you hanging on to friendships that don’t feel good, because of a misplaced sense of loyalty?

umbrella-1031328_1920Anyone who is not encouraging and championing your truth, your dreams, your goals, your evolution, your short comings, helping you pull out the best version of yourself and calling you out on your shit, shouldn’t be called a friend. Anyone who isn’t making you laugh, reminding you not to take yourself and life so seriously isn’t a true friend and shouldn’t be in your life.

Along the way, I have shed friendships that were actually holding me down. Sometimes it takes a while to realize that the person who is nearest to your heart isn’t a true friend. Many moons ago, I used to be very close with a girl that was constantly negative. She didn’t believe in any dreams or goals, thinking that everything was out of reach. She would blindly follow the masses and told me to do the same. I was friends with her at a time in my life when I was trying to figure out who I was and how to fly with my own wings. I couldn’t figure out why it was so difficult. Until I realize that the weight of her words was dragging me down. I distanced myself and found my passions, found happiness, found my path.

History alone doesn’t make friendships. Choose wisely who you surround yourself with.

I am now surrounded by friends who encourage me, instead of holding me back and it does make all the difference in the world.