There are a lot of articles out there about toxic masculinity, but not many about positive masculinity in the 21st century. It is in my opinion that you can’t simply point out what is toxic masculinity, you must also point out positive masculine traits. I’ve asked help from the man walking me through life to draw a picture of what it means to be an alpha male in the 21st century.

A strong man in the 21st century boldly steps beyond traditional masculinity.

An alpha man is the kind of man to fight against injustice, even when his privilege insulates him.

couple-1030744_1920A strong male has a responsibility to champion the women around him for being the strong, wonderful people they are. A strong man thinks women can do anything and feels lucky to be around and watch it happen. Their confidence comes from within and isn’t dependent on their surroundings so they don’t need to bullshit you, belittle you, or strike on your insecurities.

“Strong men, men who are truly role models, don’t need to put down women to make themselves feel powerful.” – Michelle Obama

An alpha man calls out mates who disrespect women in public and in private. When he sees harassment, he points it out, he gets loud, he makes it public. He embarrasses and harasses the attacker and make sure the victim is safe.

The abuse of women and girls is the most pervasive and unaddressed human rights violation on earth.” – Jimmy Carter

father-743052_1920A strong male doesn’t “help” with household duty, he’s doing his share of maintaining his home and raising his children. In other words, he is a team player and an involved father.

An alpha man isn’t suspicious and jealous whenever she’s out of his sight. They’re not threatened or jealous.

A strong male knows his limitations, and freely own up to them.