When toxic types can’t control the way you see yourself, they start to control how others see you. They play the martyr while you’re labelled the toxic one. They do this out of a sense of revenge, taking pleasure in seeing your fear. A smear campaign is a premeditated preemptive strike to intentionally sabotage your reputation, character and slander your name so that you won’t have a support network to fall back on as they set out to destroy you emotionally and mentally and/or financially.
If dealing with a stranger, they may stalk and harass you or the people you know as a way to supposedly “expose” the truth about you; this exposure acts as a way to hide their own abusive behaviour while projecting it onto you. If you are dealing with an abusive spouse, they will strategically start recalling all the things you have ever shared with them regarding your own personal experiences. They will take this information to use it against you. If you have children with the toxic person, they will also use them against you through manipulation.
The toxic individual will likely use all the tools at their disposal and contact/target everyone that surrounds the victim, such as family, coworkers, mutual friends, feeding them lies.
A victim in an abusive relationship with a narcissist often doesn’t know what’s being said about them during the relationship, but they eventually find out the falsehoods shortly after they’ve been discarded.
Toxic people will gossip behind your back (and in front of your face), slander you to your loved ones or their loved ones, create stories that depict you as the aggressor while they play the victim, and claim that you engaged in the same behaviours that they are afraid you will accuse them of engaging in. They will also methodically, covertly and deliberately abuse you so they can use your reactions as a way to prove that they are the so-called “victims” of your abuse.
There is no easy way through a smear campaign. The best way to handle a smear campaign is to stay mindful of your reactions and stick to the facts.
If you are or were in a relationship with someone who is doing a smear campaign, change all your passwords. Reach out for support. You may wish to take legal action if you feel the stalking and harassment is getting out of control; finding a lawyer . Your character and integrity will speak for itself if you stay mindful of your reactions.