I don’t understand why so many people refuse to take domestic violence seriously. Good men don’t advocate domestic violence.

“Until men start standing up for women and tell other men that any sort of domestic violence is wrong, I don’t have a lot of hope for any sort of change.” – Gretchen Vapnar, Executive Director of Community Crisis Center in Elgin

A woman is murdered or survives a murder attempt by her ex or her current love interest every 16 hours. Some have attempted or murdered women they barely knew for turning them down.

In the United States, a mother who was tortured, beaten and had her throat cut by her ex-fiancé in front of her children was ordered by an incompetent judge to write him letters to give him updates on the children or face jail time. Apparently, domestic violence and murder attempt in front of your kids aren’t a reason to loose custody.  Why would any judge in his or her right mind ever decide that the abuser has parental rights and is entitled to a phone, email, or/and letter contact?

In Quebec, Canada, teenagers between the age of 12 and 17-years-old are 10 times more likely to be victims of violence from their boyfriend than boys of the same age. As the parent and stepparent of teens, this fact is extremely troubling.

A violent partner will always blame the innocent party for all of their problems. They will always find some way to demonise and accuse the innocent party and condemn them.

People’s comments on domestic violence are indicators of a widespread opinion that domestic violence is easily excused and has no long-term impact on our communities. That such acts of violence have become so routine, and that so little is done to address the problem, is the broader tragedy here.