Talking with my best friend, my daughter and others in my life, I came to the conclusion that most of the things that make us feel bad always comes down to the same thing. We put so much upon ourselves. We have this vision of how things should be, how they should feel, how it should work and when that vision isn’t in tune with the reality we feel like we are failing, we feel ashamed. This leads to feelings of low self-worth, anxiety, anger and even self-harm and depression, all throughout one’s life.
No one is Superwoman or Superman. We all strive for a perfection that doesn’t exist.
I take on so much upon myself. I feel personally responsible for my friends and my daughter’s happiness. At work, I’m responsible for keeping employees happy with technology which isn’t easy. It seems that I spend all of my time, professional and personal taking it upon myself to take care of everyone else.
I’m now trying to let go of control before it kills me. I try to remember that I can’t support everyone, that I can’t control everything and should trust that people will survive on their own.
Don’t be sorry for your feelings.
No one fits, that’s part of the big lie. We all feel like outsiders.
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” — Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
We expect so much from ourselves. We are truly our worst enemies.