We are all flawed and we all make mistakes and that’s okay. Not all “flaws” need fixing.
There is a lot of pressure in today’s society to be as close to perfect as you can be. The self-help, diet and beauty industry are striving because we are all unhappy with who we are. The unhappier we are, the more profit they make.
We need to stop trying to fix ourselves. We are not broken. We are flawed, unique individuals who learn from mistakes and trials. It’s how humanity works.
For example, we’ve all seen these articles and psychology pieces that make quiet individuals feel like their introversion is something they need to fix. There’s nothing further from the truth. I’ve always been a private, but open person. This means that I will not go out of my way to tell people my story, but I also don’t shy away when asked a direct question. Some say I’m too honest. I tell the truth whether it is socially acceptable or not. It’s always been in my opinion that to adhere to society taboos only encourage stigma.
Being honest and showing your vulnerability is incredibly freeing. Being true to oneself, being authentic to your own truth, creates inner peace. You don’t need to be perfect.
That being said, it also opens a door for people who see “flaws” as something that needs fixing and you will be on the receiving end of unsolicited advice. These “flaws” could be an obstacle you are currently dealing, or an illness you have to live with, a special quirk, etc.
The thing is, that not all flaws need fixing. Every instant, every decision, every action, determine who you are. No one can be perfect 24/7 and the world would be a boring place if everything always worked like clockwork. We can aim to better ourselves, but sometimes it’s our quirks that make us special, that makes us shine like a diamond.