Collectively, consciously for some, unconsciously for others, we denigrate appearances, bodies and genitals in everyday life. We all adopt problematic behaviours and statements at one time or another in our lives since we are conditioned by the patriarchal society.
A man should never blame his girlfriend for having vaginal smells since there is nothing more normal. To tell a woman how to maintain her vagina is a form of control that men use and shouldn’t be tolerated. Whatever the intentions, these jokes or comments are not to be taken lightly because they are words and habits that are part of a line of systemic oppressions related to gender, appearance and genitalia.
Unfortunately, several gynaecologists have sounded the alarm that women with completely normal exams weep that they have been told that they do not smell or taste correct or that they are too wet, or too loose, or too gross.
It is normal to have lips of different shapes and sizes and this is by no means something that should be the source of inappropriate jokes, which is are only words used to belittle appearances again and again. All genitals are beautiful, unique and different.
Women’s biology is amazing and functional. I’ve said it before and will say it again until people get it: the vagina is like a self-cleaning oven.
If your partner insinuates that an artificial smell is preferable to a natural vaginal odour, it is he who has a problem and need to grow up. If anyone speaks to you about your body with anything but respect and kindness, it’s them who has a problem, not you. We must stop encouraging harmful thoughts that devalue the bodies and make the vulvas taboo.
The application of products from vaginal steaming, douches, perfume, bleach, glitter, tightening sticks or any other product alter the vaginal odours or look in any way can have very damaging effects on the skin, in addition to increasing the risk of infection. Honestly, who would think vagina “glitter bombs” are a good idea?
Your health is more important than an under-educated, overly spoiled man-boy who feels entitled to controlling every aspect of your body, even the parts he doesn’t understand.
It is the inability to talk about vaginas without shame that is at the very core of profiteering and abuse.
Men complaining about your healthy vagina are the same as the men who insinuate you would be more desirable if you change your hair, or if you lost weight, or if you dressed differently. It’s about controlling women by preying on their insecurities.
Let’s make sure that this new era in which men shame women for their perfectly healthy vaginas comes to an end sooner than later.
If you have a medical concern, see a doctor, not some guy who thinks he knows more about the female body and the woman who was born in it.