Accepting help isn’t easy. No one is perfect. We are all aware of this. We all accept it. Yet, admitting our own fault out loud is difficult to do.
I am one of these people who pass their time helping others but has difficulty accepting help from others when I need it. I realize that I have built an identity from which I not only can offer my help but somehow feels it’s my responsibility to help everyone I love. The problem is that this need to help others somehow translated in my mind that I cannot receive it. It’s a problem not only for me but for my close ones who want to help and give back. I somehow feel I have a duty to respond to the needs of others while ignoring mine.
Part of the issue is that I feel that asking for help or accepting it disturbs others and the last thing that I want is to be a weight, a problem for others. I’m supposed to be helping them, not causing the issues, right?
Another part of the issue is that I feel shame as if it’s my duty to be a pillar for everyone and that leaning on others means I’m failing at my job.
I not only need to learn to accept help, but I also need to learn that other people’s happiness isn’t my job.