Don’t be a doormat. Pleasing people isn’t a bad thing in itself, but if it because the most important thing to you to please people all the time, in every situation, it can be very negative.
I’m not a people pleaser and it has caused some issues, but I prefer dealing with these uncomfortable moments than feeling that I need to please people all the time.
People pleasing is a hard habit to break. The fear of hurting someone because you say no, or stand up for yourself is crippling. The guilty feeling is crippling. The problem is that if you aren’t determined to rewrite this horrific pattern, it will make you a doormat.
I promise you, once you break the pattern, being a people pleaser will make you feel trapped. You will never want to go back to that pattern.