Have a good, long, body-shaking cry. Scream, pound pillows, tear up paper, shake your body to move the energy out. Allow and feel and express your feelings. Express all of them. Do so safely and appropriately. Use your words. Don’t bottle it up. Don’t push it down. Our feelings are what make us fully-evolved humans.
No matter what the reason for the tears, it’s unhealthy to stop them from flowing.
While I’m at it, can we stop calling it “ugly crying”?
I would love to know when did it become ugly to cry? Since when do we have to hide and ask for forgiveness for crying in an ugly way? When did we become this superficial?
Emotions aren’t supposed to be pretty. The unburdening of tears releases pain’s leaden pressure to cleanse our wounds. Crying improves our mood and relieve stress. So have a good body-shaking cry. How can that be considered ugly? Why is crying an act that must be furtively concealed and the evidence quickly erased?