Life is not about being perfect, we are constantly evolving. It is essential to express ourselves when we are not well and not let it all bottle up on the inside.
There are certain moments in life when we are not well, and it’s human. I haven’t met anyone whose life has been perfectly happy from start to end. We are not always positive. We are not always right. We are not always nice. That’s perfectly okay.
There are times when we feel broken and discouraged, desperate and angry at the world
For several months, I have been in the status of “I’m not well”. I’ve been going through job, family and health crisis. It’s a lot to take on all at the same time. I’m talking about my experience with depression and anxiety both in this blog and in real life. I do not think I’m unique. I think many of us are dealing with these issues at one time or another.
I did not try to hide the fact that I was unhappy at certain times in my life. Some people think this is a sign of weakness. I disagree. I think equalling mental illness with weakness is very dangerous.
Writing and talking about it has been very therapeutic. I discovered that I was not alone. In fact many family members have gone through or are going through similar experiences.
When you realize that other people shared the same thoughts, feelings, and problems, it relieves guilt, fear and the need to hide what we are going through. It helps us to free ourselves of the burden.
In my experience, people who show no flaws have no confidence in them, are frightened, depressed and never seek to know the source. They do not want to talk about it for fear of being judged or despised. I refuse to give power to anyone who is ignorant enough to judge or look down on anyone for struggling.
Depression and anxiety are challenging enough without having to deal with it in hiding.
Life isn’t about being perfect. We are constantly evolving. You can’t do that without change and overcoming obstacles. You can’t do that by ignoring the bad. You can only evolve by facing and overcoming your issues.
The way you overcome this pain can take different forms. You can talk about your issues openly with a trusted friend or a therapist. You can write about it in a blog or your diary. Whatever the case may be, there should be no shame in the methods you choose to improve yourself.
If you are afraid to do it do not worry, you can start slowly if you wish. Just start by saying it to yourself. Denial is the first obstacle to getting better.
Admitting that you are struggling even if it’s only to yourself, will help you take the first step towards getting better. You will be able to talk when you feel more comfortable. Don’t keep it all bottled on the inside. It’s not good for you.