Why me? This is a question that is only too natural when you are diagnosed with an incurable chronic illness.
Living with a chronic illness such as fibromyalgia, rheumatoid arthritis, etc. is not as easy as having a cold or flu. A serious illness can hinder your life in many ways. It is only normal for you to go through a whole range of emotions.
At first, you may find it hard to believe that you have an illness. It is possible that you are upset or angry, sad or helpless, and even that you are afraid.
When you learn that you have a serious illness, your life can be turned upside down. It is normal for you to feel strong emotions about the implications of a chronic illness.
You may be angry for a number of reasons:
- Your situation is unfair. Why me?;
- Your doctors can not heal you;
- You must depend on others;
- You don’t have control over your own body;
- You must go to the doctor, undergo tests or receive treatment on a regular basis;
- Your illness affects your work, your friendships and your activities.
It’s scary to have to live with a chronic illness. Many of those who suffer from it are afraid of becoming even sicker. I know I am.
You may be worried about how family members or friends feel about your illness. You may be hesitant to ask for help when you need it because you do not want to disturb them.
It’s normal for you to feel sad because you have an illness that can change your life. Your social relations may suffer. People may treat you differently, and your freedom and choices may be different.
It can be frustrating to deal with an illness. You have an illness, and it’s not fair. Your diet and activities may be restricted. Your treatments may have side effects. You may find that people simply do not know how to help you or see your illness, rather than seeing you as an entire person.
When you have a chronic illness, it is more important than ever that you take good care of yourself.
When the initial shock of your diagnosis fades, you must learn how to deal with it and manage your illness on a daily basis. Be kind to yourself, and be patient. You can not assimilate everything overnight.